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When my kids were young (son and daughter), I pushed them pretty hard.  I had no illusions about either of them playing at a big time college program or even receiving college scholarships.  My son (football) is the kind of kid who works his butt off, but is missing some essential athleticism.  My daughter is quite athletic (basketball and track), but probably lacks the size+skill set to play at the next level.  I pushed them hard because I wanted them to know that regardless of their talent level they had to devote themselves to improving if they wanted to play. This is I think the lesson that sports can teach our kids.  Success is usually the result of hard work and feeling like you accomplished your goals (whatever they are)  through your own effort is valuable.

 

My wife and I feel that winning is important and that feeling like you contributed to a team victory is its own reward.  Hard work and playing hard are essential parts of that.  We are honest with our kids.  When they play well, we praise them, but when they dont we tell them. When they make excuses we call them out.  When they get hurt we make it clear that they are still expected to play if they can (there is a difference between hurt and injured). I do some yelling from the stands -- usually I yell hustle, or go rebound ( yelling at your son during a football game is pretty pointless).

Perfect play and results are nearly impossible, but you can play your hardest every time.

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What are your feelings toward parents who push kids too far or want except the fact that their kid isnt a good athlete.

For some odd reason, parents now days have this strange sense of entitlement and believe for some reason that because their kid has played at a particular school thier whole lives or simply because they are seniors that they should automatically be a starter on a team (regardless of athletic ability).  I'm glad we have coaches that recognize the importance of playing the best of the best regardless of senority or last name.

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I would wish coaches go back to the days about not caring about who your daddies were or how much money they or their families have! It would be all about the best players playing! Football, everyone knows is a way of life in the State of Texas as well as down South 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year! Coaches want to play the best players in an area where it is very competitive and trust me, football districts in the Greater Houston/Golden Triangle area are on the toughest in the State! On Friday nights from August to December, fans pay their hard earned cash on tickets so they watch their high school teams win (in most communities, HSFB games are community-wide events)! They want coaches that could create very high standards of winning!
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A lot of time parents are reliving their failings in high school through their kids. This adds a ton of pressure on the kid to have to play for mom or dad. At the end of the day it is about the team and not the individual. Parents need to realize this and quit dividing a locker room. It teaches negative behavior to the kids.
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I can not lie I am on of those parents. I push my daughter hard in softball, she is not the biggest nor the smallest kid out there but she does try. I stay on her butt like there isn't not tomorrow, she is like all the other girls when she is focused she plays well when she doesn't pay attention she gets in trouble. But I can say this, in the end she will know I was there at every game making sure she gives her all expecting her to give 110% whether they win or lose. I wanted a boy when I found out my wife was pregnant, but was blessed to have a girl. We do the softball thing which I didn't think I would like, it has grown on me over the last three years. Im still learning but I am picking up just as much from the other parents as well. They are pushing me in the right direction along with the other lil girls to make me a better parent, for that I am grateful. I have toned it down alil bit , still a work in progress. im just thankful that she doesn't dance

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A lot of time parents are reliving their failings in high school through their kids. This adds a ton of pressure on the kid to have to play for mom or dad. At the end of the day it is about the team and not the individual. Parents need to realize this and quit dividing a locker room. It teaches negative behavior to the kids.

I totally disagree now in saying that you may have some truth. I am a very tuned in parent because I listen to my kids when they talk to me. Now I never tell my boys to go against anything the coaches ask of them, but at the same time I can tell them what I see, or we discuss what they see. If a locker room is divided it's due to the leadedrship being divided, not leadership of the players only. 

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Why do you consistently go to topics and post a negative comment?

nothing negative about it. you twisted it that way.

 

the title is annoying parents. there are a lot of them that post here daily. 

 

it must of hit close to home with you and soljia.

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How them cubs looking?

We will need some players to step up, but like Dayton they always do. Might have some growing pains early while they are learning, but when it starts counting Coach West will have them where they need to be. Lot of speed on offense and defense as usual and having key skill players back (QB and RB) helps leadership. I think the Cubs will still be very good, how far they go depends on growth of the younger players. Playing 16 games last year will help them cause they got the extra practice and the experience of the playoffs. 

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When my kids were young (son and daughter), I pushed them pretty hard. I had no illusions about either of them playing at a big time college program or even receiving college scholarships. My son (football) is the kind of kid who works his butt off, but is missing some essential athleticism. My daughter is quite athletic (basketball and track), but probably lacks the size+skill set to play at the next level. I pushed them hard because I wanted them to know that regardless of their talent level they had to devote themselves to improving if they wanted to play. This is I think the lesson that sports can teach our kids. Success is usually the result of hard work and feeling like you accomplished your goals (whatever they are) through your own effort is valuable.

My wife and I feel that winning is important and that feeling like you contributed to a team victory is its own reward. Hard work and playing hard are essential parts of that. We are honest with our kids. When they play well, we praise them, but when they dont we tell them. When they make excuses we call them out. When they get hurt we make it clear that they are still expected to play if they can (there is a difference between hurt and injured). I do some yelling from the stands -- usually I yell hustle, or go rebound ( yelling at your son during a football game is pretty pointless).
Perfect play and results are nearly impossible, but you can play your hardest every time.

Clearly one of the best posts I've ever read on this site. (Take A Bow)
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Clearly one of the best posts I've ever read on this site. (Take A Bow)


Wow Bigcam, we aren't the only one's to feel this way. Too me, this is the formula to success but most parents aren't truthful to their kids and if they complain they give them a way out! Good post.
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nothing negative about it. you twisted it that way.

the title is annoying parents. there are a lot of them that post here daily.

it must of hit close to home with you and soljia.


Seems like every topic you post in is a one or two sentence negative. And no, im not a disgruntled parent unless trying to teach my 2 year old to be ambidextrous isnt working according to my plan. Lol
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a lot of those annoying parents post setx sports daily.

I'm Guilty!!! I'm Annoying & I post a lot. I'm only Annoying to people who allow me to annoy them. I'm posting now to be annoying. Is it working?
If my Son comes home with a subpar performance because of lack of Effort, you haven't seen Annoying until you witness how I will unleash on his Butt. For those that know me, that's putting it mildly. We don't rise & grind @ 6am daily & make sacrifices for him to just exist. That Crap Annoys me. Paying for camps, equipment, driving to games, admission to games, food, training, mentoring, Fathering......
You get my drift; this lifestyle can be Annoying to someone who doesn't live this life. So, you're Damned right I'm annoying or annoyed; which ever comes first. Either you're In or Out.
We don't do things Halfass & that's why we won't be paying for College God willing. JMO
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I'm Guilty!!! I'm Annoying & I post a lot. I'm only Annoying to people who allow me to annoy them. I'm posting now to be annoying. Is it working?
If my Son comes home with a subpar performance because of lack of Effort, you haven't seen Annoying until you witness how I will unleash on his Butt. For those that know me, that's putting it mildly. We don't rise & grind @ 6am daily & make sacrifices for him to just exist. That Crap Annoys me. Paying for camps, equipment, driving to games, admission to games, food, training, mentoring, Fathering......
You get my drift; this lifestyle can be Annoying to someone who doesn't live this life. So, you're Damned right I'm annoying or annoyed; which ever comes first. Either you're In or Out.
We don't do things Halfass & that's why we won't be paying for College God willing. JMO

Well everyone on setxsports knows that we are nott short on words in my family, but hey i can only be honest.

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